It's amazing the difference between Facebook photos of a group of gay friends in their 20s and one of a group of friends in their late 30s and 40s. For the young ones, it's all about drinking in a bar or apparent basement, with girls as accessories, and making silly faces and poses for the camera. For those approaching middle age, the cups are fancier, the locales a bit more refined, girls are few and far between and posing is mostly about looking your best.